The only thing worse than the alarming rise in crimes against women across the world, is the audacity with which they are committed and the attitude of society which often leads to the victim being questioned and the perpetrator going unpunished.
Debates around marital rape in India and questions over a woman being drunk when she was raped or her dress show that there is still lack of clarity about the concept of consent, which is a distinction between rape and consensual sex.
The prevailing environment calls for an unfortunate yet important effort to explain that ‘no means no’ and rape is different from consensual sex in any situation. Among others, Twitter user Nafisa Ahmed has come up with a brilliant way to break down rape in a series of 7 tweets using $5.
Here’s the full explanation.
I don’t get how rape is so hard to understand for some men. But, if you put it like this, they get it:
If you ask me for $5, and I’m too drunk to say yes or no, it’s not okay to then go take $5 out of my purse… Just because I didn’t say no.
If you put a gun to my head to get me to give you $5, you still stole $5. Even if I physically handed you $5.
If I let YOU borrow $5, that doesn’t give the right for your FRIEND to take $5 out of my purse.
“But you gave him some, why can’t I?”
If you steal $5 and I can’t prove it in court, that does NOT mean you didn’t steal $5.
Just because I gave you $5 in the past, doesn’t mean I have to give you $5 in the future.
And to think a man said “Well she sat on his lap & went to his house.” Okay, if I ask you to hold my purse, does that mean you can take $?